When you are caring for an elderly loved one, you need to expect that there will be changes in your own life, too. When you are helping someone else every day, sacrifices need to be made. Now, when you love someone and truly want what is best for them, you typically don’t mind making those sacrifices. However, that doesn’t mean that it is an easy thing to do. As you begin the planning process for ensuring that your parent is safe in their senior years, don’t be afraid to make sacrifices, but also know when things are too much for you.
We urge you to remain realistic with the choices that you make. You cannot expect yourself to do everything, and you need to take care of your health–both physical and mental. You need to take breaks once in a while, and you may need to use a professional caregiver. In fact, it’s vital to know that using a professional caregiver of any sort does not mean that you are giving up on your responsibility to your family. It means that you are taking charge in filling in the gaps with higher quality care where you cannot adequately provide for their needs.
It’s important to remember that you cannot predict with one hundred percent accuracy what kind of changes will occur within the lives of your elderly parents. Nothing in life is certain, and things can get particularly uncertain when you are considering older folks. A degree of flexibility is important when you are planning senior care for a loved one because of this. Rather than coming up with a plan and sticking to it no matter what, you should have broad goals that you and your parent want to accomplish with their care, and a path that you want to follow to get there. Having a flexible type of care in mind, such as what you find with a trained in-home care professional, can ensure that the care you start with is adaptable to the needs of your family as their situation changes.
Even if you have made a promise in good faith to your loved one in need in the past, or even if you have indicated to your other family members that you will do certain things in regards to caring for elderly loved ones, you need to keep that fact in mind. No one knows the future, and no one is able to account for all circumstances before they know exactly what will happen. Yes, you want to keep your word as closely as possible, but you also need to have flexibility to account for the unforeseen. In-home care might be the type of care that everyone agrees is best, but if your father has a stroke and needs constant assistance and in-home care cannot provide the level of help he needs, then even though that’s what was once agreed upon as best, it makes sense that this is no longer the top choice for care. Understanding, flexibility, and a compassionate outlook on their unique situation are all needed if you want your parent to have the best senior care possible.